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Thursday, February 12, 2009

A Life Lesson

My mind was expanded last night through the miracle that is cable television. TLC was airing a series of shocking medical stories and I got hooked right away. The first one literally made me gasp. It featured a 55 year old Filipino man who has lived his whole life with a parasitic twin growing out of his abdomen. I will spare you the photo, but the twin consisted mainly of arms and legs and a small patch of hair.

From this man I learned that none of the excuses we use to push away happiness are valid. Are you not dating because you think you’re not attractive? This man has a wife and daughter who love him. Do you think you have no special talents to offer the world? This man once gained fame and fortune working in a circus, which is how he met his wife.

Do you live in fear of what the future will bring? This man now lives in poverty and his heart is failing due to the demands of his twin. Doctors recently offered him a free operation to remove the twin with a high probability of success. He turned it down. His reason? God had given it to him. He was born with it and he would die with it.

I can’t say that I would have made the same choice, but I’ve never been asked to give up a part of myself that I’ve lived with for 55 years. He was able to embrace and love that part of himself that others found repulsive. So many of us struggle to love and accept ourselves, thinking, “I’m too fat. I’m too skinny. I’m too short. I’m too bald. I’m too damaged.” The truth is, we are all perfect creatures that deserve love. Windswept_tree_-_Ushuaia

By perfect I don’t mean without flaw.” I mean that our imperfections only serve to make us more unique and beautiful. A tree that has been bent by decades of struggling against the wind is still a perfect and beautiful sight. A Sperm Whale that has been scarred by propeller blades is still a perfect and beautiful ocean creature. And a woman who has lost her hair due to chemotherapy is still inherently perfect and beautiful.

Somehow we have to learn to love ourselves unconditionally in a society full of rules for what perfection is. Once we truly love ourselves, we become free and anything is possible. That’s a message I need to hear and believe, so I’ll say it again.

None of the excuses we use to push away happiness
are valid. Once we truly love ourselves,
anything becomes possible.

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9 comments:

leah said...

love this post. thank you! it came at a great time.

The Filigree Garden said...

So very true. A wonderful post and reminder.

Anna said...

You are so right. What a beautiful post. I needed this today. Thank you for sharing.

Ann Wilkinson said...

we spend too much time beating ourselves up for such unimportant things, when what really matters is having life, health and love! thank you for saying this so eloquently.

IfiHadaHammer said...

Thank you for sharing. It's important that we love ourselves and focus on being the best we can be and not bow down to those negative feelings

missKimSu said...

Bonnie
I so loved your blog tonight. It was so beautiful and so true. As we grow older, we realize that one of our purposes for life on this planet is to help others see and realize that exact truth for themselves. A beautiful sentiment from a beautiful person. Thank you.

Flax and Spindle said...

thank you so much for that. we are all a work in progress...

Angie said...

Those mystery diagnosis shows are always fascinating, aren't they? Thank you for the lovely post.

It's Just Me said...

Lovely. Well said!